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How to Surprise Your Wife with a Party

Surprise parties are fun, especially if you’re the one receiving them. When people take the time out of their life to surprise you with a party that celebrates you, you truly feel loved and surrounded by friends. With this in mind, if you want your wife to feel loved, a surprise party might be the thing that both of you need. Here’s a couple of tips to help you plan that surprise party for your wife.

Find Out If They Like Surprises

Well, the first thing you need to do to surprise your wife is to find out if she likes surprises. People are different. Some love surprises and would appreciate them highly. Other people are ambivalent but would take the gesture as an act of love. In contrast, some people hate surprises and find the experience anxiety-inducing. You’re most likely going to have an idea whether your wife would like surprises or not, and it’s best to lean into that. If you’re not sure, it’s best to ask, but ask before a significant time before you intend to launch their surprise party.

Secretly Fish For more Information

You know whether your wife likes surprises or not, and if she does, then the plan is a go. But that’s not the only information you need to have. You also need to know her schedule because you don’t want to take her away at a critical moment. And neither do you want distractions during your party. But other than her schedule, you also want to fish out information like what she’s currently into or what she would enjoy the most at her party.

Build Your Team

Once you’ve gathered all the information, it’s time to start planning for the party. Ideally, you want a team of family and friends to help you out. You’re most likely going to be the leader, the one that oversees everything and coordinates with those who can help you. You also want a runner who will be willing to run errands for you during the actual event- something you should never overlook. They can also help you keep track of how much you’re spending (particularly useful if you’re keeping a tab). And of course, you need a point person. They’re usually the distraction or the decoy to not ruin the surprise for your partner.

Pick a Location


You need to pick the right location to make the moment special. It helps if you know exactly what your wife wants since you can go for that. But if not, it’s always great to lean into romantic cliches- they’re cliches for a reason, and that reason is that everyone likes them! Check out when your local beach won’t be as booked. It’s often during busy workdays. You can also look for services like VIP Boat Hire to zone in on the romantic atmosphere. Or it can also be a romantic night in the garden. Make sure you secure the location beforehand so that your surprise isn’t ruined.

Lock-In The Date and Time

We’ve mentioned before how important it is to know her schedule, largely because you want to execute your plan at the most reasonable time. It’s best to pull it off when they think they’re about to be busy, only to be met with a surprise. You also need to coordinate with people joining the party as you don’t want them to be unavailable during the set time either. Here’s an idea: if you’re going for a birthday party or an anniversary, do it a week or two before their actual birthday. They’ll be surprised, and you won’t be intruding on their actual celebratory plans.

Plan Your Decoy!

Because this is a surprise, you need a distraction or a decoy. You need to plan this one well, as the last thing you want is the decoy not understanding what they need to do and end up spoiling the party. You want a reliable person, somebody you and your wife can trust to play as the decoy. They’ll also be the ones responsible for transporting or leading your wife to the location, so plan that one as well.

Remember that your surprise party doesn’t have to be extravagant. It could be a simple celebration attended only by your closest friends, or it could be your entire friend group. What’s important is that you and your partner get to spend quality time together during the party. After all, you’re celebrating her day, and she’ll likely want to celebrate that with you.

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